The Attachment Style Adjustment Kit

Checking your phone every few minutes for a reply. Pulling away right when things get real. These aren't flaws — they're patterns, and patterns can shift. This 16-page kit gives you a concrete path toward earned secure attachment.

What you get:

• The research behind why attachment style isn't fixed — adults can and do move toward secure attachment through steady practice
• The three patterns explained plainly: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant (plus a note on disorganized patterns)
• The S.E.C.U.R.E. method: 6 steps — See Your Pattern, Explain Don't Blame, Co-Regulate, Understand Your Partner, Repair Quickly, Earn Secure Habits
• A "rewrite the reaction" exercise for turning reactive complaints into the real need underneath
• An 8-week practice plan, building week by week
• Common patterns that trip people up, and how to fix them
• Red flags worth a second look, plus when to involve a professional
• A printable Reflect & Plan Together page and S.E.C.U.R.E. cheat sheet
• Trusted resources, including the Gottman Institute and ICEEFT's therapist directory

Grounded in attachment and couples-therapy research (including Emotionally Focused Therapy outcomes). Every heading links directly to that page. Fully editable in Canva.

Built for: Anyone who recognizes an anxious or avoidant pattern in how they love — with exercises that work solo, and a clear way to bring a partner in when it helps.